The Single Most Important Choice of Your Life
Raw Manifesto 005
When you read the headline what is the first thing you think of?
There are very few mistakes in this world that stay with you forever.
You can recover from a bad business deal. You can bounce back from a failed startup. You can rebuild after bankruptcy. You can recover from injuries, from setbacks, even from losing everything you own.
But the one thing you cannot recover from is choosing the wrong woman to have kids with.
That decision is permanent. Final. Irreversible.
She becomes the mother of your children. The person who shapes them when you’re not around. The voice in their head. The example they follow. The genes they inherit. The values they absorb.
It doesn’t matter if you’re no longer together, and you move on to a different part of your life.
That woman will forever be the mother of your children. Regardless if you’re with her or not any more. That means fighting over custody, child support, separated living, ruined vacations and holidays over who spends time with which parents and where. A stain on your bloodline forever.
If you pick right, you could very well build a dynasty. In today’s world, this is as equal of an opportunity as it is to get hitched. Your kids will grow up strong, loyal, capable, smart. Your bloodline continues with pride, and your legacy remains secure.
And if you pick wrong? You will watch your life crumble in slow motion. You will see before your very eyes your kids will be poisoned against you. Your wealth will be drained. Your name will be ran through the mud. Your bloodline will end in weakness and resentment.
The harsh reality is that this is what happens. Every single day. To men who thought they could fix her. To men who ignored red flags because she was hot. To men who were too scared to be alone so they settled.
If you are reading this right now, I need you to finalize this and cement through your brain.
The woman you pick to mother your children is the most important decision you will ever make.
More important than your career. More important than where you live. More important than how much money you make.
Because everything else can be changed. This cannot.
Virgin Wife
There seems to be a norm nowadays with a lot of the public influencers. Tate types and all. Baby moms and such. Son army. Five plus women breeding like cattle. That has never been my goal. And if that isn’t your goal, you need to be very careful with the type of advice you follow and take from these guys.
If you envision a future with one woman. Your Queen. Your trusted best friend. The one you could confide in. The one you can trust to look after the home when you’re not there. The one to raise and instill your familial character into your bloodline. Then you cannot be operating with the mindset that you can wife up some girl you just happen to be sleeping with.
It will end catastrophically.
You need to be nothing short of a visionary when picking this role yet most men, especially those a lot of you desperately follow and view as Demigods, are nothing of the sort.
Their relationships are ran amuck. They get stuck with the woman they impregnated. They thought they could fool around with her, have fun, and when they’d finally want to settle down they’d go to the Virgin Factor (as if virgins are good wife-material types (very debatable and long conversion for another day for a more mature crowd)) and pick out a fresh 18-year old to “settle down” with.
This is bullshit, my friend.
Not how real life works at all.
And for the few who do go this route… Watch how it fails in a few years when the “Virgin” reawakens and discovers she’s missed out on the nightlife scene, the going out, being chased by guys, knowing what it’s like to be seeked out by other suitors, getting drunk in different countries with her girlfriends, and so on. It’s a headache, and not the fairytale a lot of you think it is.
Now, of course I’m not saying you need to go for a chick who runs the streets like a fiefdom type either. But the whole virgin debate is trite and not very efficient. There are a ton of gems and a lot of them happened to have some bad relationships that didn’t pan out. Either the guy took his time or they were all too young. Lesson is to not exclude anyone out because some internet fad “shamed” you into thinking it’s the wrong move.
I promise you most men on here are absolute imbeciles with no genuinely good woman of their own, just fantasy-larping on the topic.
What To Actually Look For In A Wife
No. Your wife, the mother of your kids, should not be picked based off your “sexual chemistry”.
While, of course, you need to be sexually attracted to each other, that is nowhere near the top choice for choosing your wife.
Matter of fact, if you played the game as the man aggressively, you’ll have had many partners who were far more sexually experienced than your woman. Why would you expect any different?
That doesn’t mean that girl who could twerk on it would make a good mother for your sons and daughters, now does it?
When choosing a wife and a mother for your kids…
You’re looking for the mother who will raise your sons and daughters when you’re at work. What kind of values she’ll teach them. The habits she’ll model. The worldview she’ll install in their heads.
You’re also choosing your kids’ genetics. Her intelligence. Her temperament. Her mental stability. Her physical traits. Half of your children’s DNA comes from her. Choose poorly and they can inherit her worst qualities.
You’re choosing who gets half your wealth if things go south. Who controls access to your children if you divorce. Who can turn them against you. Who can destroy everything you built.
Even if you don’t legally get married, these are very important options to look into. There’s a lot more important things to life than your dollar bills.
You’re choosing your life partner for the next 40-50 years minimum. The person you wake up next to. The person you build with. The person who either supports your mission or sabotages it daily.
This is not some causal decision.
And most men treat it like they’re picking a car. They go for the pretty one. The fun one. The one that feels good right now.
Then 10 years later they’re sitting in a lawyer’s office wondering how it all went so wrong.
Green Flags Most Men Ignore
You want to know what actually matters? Let’s dive in to a few strong green flags.
⦿ She comes from a stable family. Her parents are still together. Her dad is present and strong. Her mom is feminine and supportive. She has healthy examples of what a family looks like.
⦿ If her family is a disaster like divorced parents, absent father, toxic mother then that’s her blueprint. That’s what she knows. That’s what she was raised with. That’s likely what she’ll recreate with you.
⦿ She’s naturally feminine. She wants to cook for you. She wants to take care of you. She enjoys being a woman. She’s not trying to compete with you or prove she’s tougher than you. Her ego is kept in check (a lot of feminine, beautiful women generally tend to have a strong ego, it is important yours is bigger and stronger than hers).
⦿ She respects your authority without you having to demand it. When you make a decision, she trusts you. She might give input but she defers to your judgment. She doesn’t fight you on every little thing. She understands you’re the leader.
⦿ She doesn’t stay mad for long. You will always have fights, arguments, and disputes. But if she can get over it in a couple of hours to a day or so, that is a good woman. You do not want to get stuck with a chick who gives you the silent treatment for days until you get on your knees and beg for forgiveness.
⦿ She has a low body count. I don’t care what modern society says. A woman who’s been with 20+ guys is not the same as one who’s been with two or five. Pair bonding is real. The more partners she’s had, the less she’s able to fully attach to you. You’ll never truly know her count, but if you’re smart enough and with enough judgeless questioning, you can gauge the validity of how she answers your specific questioning. A piece of advice for this is to ask timelined questions and remember who she says she was with and when. You can always bring up that specific timeline a different time and see if her story lines up. This requires finesse and gentlemanly prowess, not immaturely childishness.
⦿ She’s private. She doesn’t broadcast her life on social media. She’s not seeking validation from strangers. She doesn’t need attention from other men. Her Instagram is private with 200 followers (more or less), not public with 2,000. My woman doesn’t have any male followers at all. It was a discussion we had since the beginning, and eventually she agreed and it was settled. Zero guy friends. All that jazz.
⦿ She gets along with her father. If she has a good relationship with her dad, she knows how to respect a man. If she hates her father or he’s absent, you’re going to deal with that baggage forever.
⦿ She’s close with her mother. Women who have mommy issues are some of the worst chicks, in my experience. Very untrustworthy and manipulative. Again, not all are like this, but these are good metrics to keep in mind and be cautious around.
⦿ She’s supportive of your mission. When you tell her your goals, she believes in you. She doesn’t mock your ambitions or try to make you smaller. She wants you to win. She’s willing to sacrifice so you can build.
These are rare. And all of these combined? Turns her into one of the rarest women in the world. But they exist. And more imporantly, a lot of them can be molded by the right man over time. Question is are you willing to spen the time on a woman who might not even have a moldable blueprint?
Most modern women have maybe two of these traits. If you find one with five or more, it’s looking really good.
Red Flags You Better Not Ignore
Now here’s what disqualifies her immediately:
