Things You Must Know About Women Before You Turn 30
Raw Manifesto 002
The worst thing that can happen to a man isn’t dying alone.
There are things far worse than that.
Like spending 40 years with the wrong woman. Raising kids with someone who slowly reveals herself to be a nightmare. Waking up at 55, looking at the person next to you, and realizing you made the biggest mistake of your life when you were 28 and didn’t know any better.
You probably know people like this. Maybe some parents or families you hear of through your friends. The ones who stuck it through for the kids, but can’t stand each other.
That’s the real horror story. And it happens to more men than you think.
Why?
Because most men go into relationships, into marriage, completely blind. They think love conquers all. They think if the sex is good and she laughs at their jokes, that’s enough. They ignore red flags because she’s hot. They overlook fundamental incompatibilities because they’re terrified of being alone.
And then 5 years later, they’re trapped. Miserable. Paying for a mistake they made because no one ever sat them down and told them the brutal truths about women that every man needs to know before he commits.
And just to preface this for the women haters, this isn’t red pill rage or bitter divorced guy energy. We love women. We believe they’re everything a man needs in his journey to success as we’ve covered in our list to living a fulfilled life here. This specific Manifesto is arming you with the knowledge that will help you pick the right woman and build something that lasts. Something that doesn’t turn into a slow-burning nightmare.
I’m going to cover things in this post that most people are too afraid to say out loud. Things that sound harsh but are absolutely true if you have any experience with long-term relationships. Things that could save you from the single biggest mistake of your life.
We’re going to talk about:
Why the woman you meet and the woman you die with are two completely different people and why understanding this is the key to a successful marriage.
The #1 trait that matters more than looks, height, or money when it comes to her long-term loyalty (and it’s not what you think).
Why you need to stop expecting your woman to think like you and what you should do instead.
The brutal truth about female intelligence that no one wants to admit but every man in a long-term relationship eventually learns.
How to vet a woman properly so you're not the guy who realizes 5 years in that you picked wrong.
Why you must sometimes hurt her feelings to make her happy.
Fair warning. This stuff may be uncomfortable for you especially if the more you read you realize you’ve picked wrong and the terror creeps over you. But I promise you, knowing this now versus ignoring it and dealing with it few years later will kill you. As a man we must become very good at ripping off band aids.
Society tells us we’re supposed to pretend men and women are exactly the same. That we think the same, process emotions the same, approach life the same.
But you and I both know that’s bullshit. And pretending otherwise is what gets men destroyed in relationships.
So let’s get into it.
The Woman You Meet Isn’t The Woman You’ll Die With
Here’s something that might blow your mind if you’re young:
The girl you’re dating right now? She’s not actually her yet.
What I mean is that the woman you meet at 23, 25, 27?
She’s a product of everyone who came before you. Her parents programmed her. Her friends influenced her. Her exes shaped her. Her Instagram feed warped her perception of reality. She’s walking around with all this baggage, all these half-formed ideas, all these borrowed philosophies that she thinks are hers.
That’s who you’re meeting.
But the woman you marry? The woman who raises your kids? That woman becomes an extension of you.
If you do your job right, you will fundamentally reshape who she is. Not in some manipulative, controlling way. But in the way a great leader shapes those around him. You’ll teach her how to think. You’ll show her what matters. You’ll introduce her to ideas, experiences, philosophies that she never would’ve encountered without you.
And she’ll transform.
The woman you were with five years ago is different from the woman you’re married to today. The way she sees and interprets the world, how she makes decisions, what she values.You will have the biggest hand in that. And you’ll be proud of it.
This is your job as a man. You’re not just picking a finished product off the shelf. You will be very angry at the world if you expect to find this in the wild as it doesn’t exist. You’re picking raw material that you’ll refine over decades.
But the biggest catch is that if you pick bad raw material, no amount of refinement will fix it. You can’t turn a 3 into a 9 through sheer force of will. You can maybe turn a 7 into a 9. But if the foundation is rotten, you’re screwed.
So yes, she’ll change. But you need to make sure what you’re starting with is worth the investment.
Stop Expecting Her To Think Like You
This is where most competent men get tripped up.
You were raised right. Your father likely taught you logic, discipline, how to think critically. You can analyze a problem from multiple angles. You can separate emotion from fact. You can make hard decisions based on long-term outcomes rather than short-term feelings.
And then you meet a girl who’s sweet, beautiful, caring. You fall for her. And slowly, you start expecting her to think the way you do.
She makes an emotional decision that makes no logical sense, and you get frustrated. Why can’t she see what you see? Why doesn’t she approach problems rationally? Why does she let her feelings dictate so much?
Here’s the truth that’s going to piss some people off:
Women are not capable of the same logical intelligence that men are.
I’m not saying women are stupid. I’m not saying they can’t be smart, successful, or accomplished. I’m saying their intelligence is different. Their brains are wired differently. They process information differently. They prioritize differently.
Women operate primarily through emotion and social intuition. They’re better at reading people, at understanding social dynamics, at nurturing relationships. That’s their superpower. But cold, hard logic? Long-term strategic thinking? Separating feelings from facts? That’s harder for them. Not impossible, but harder.
And that’s okay.
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