Mastering Your Ego
You ain't shit until you are, and even then…
A lot of you mistake your value in this world. That’s alright, I’ve done it in the past myself. I would get great results that wouldn’t require much of my sweat, blood or tears. I would excel on tests while never doing homework. Copying off cute girls in the first 5 minutes of class. Finessing teachers. Finessing bosses. Getting away with breaking rules/small laws (still advocate this in certain avenues — not real advice though). Thinking you’re above other s because they follow what needs to be followed — the difficult and arduous path, while you shortcut in what seems to be a do-no-wrong venue. Up until you get slapped with the Reflection of Reality which sets you back years to where your value truly lies. Because you never actually built anything substantial. Why would you? You got everything or most things with minimal effort, and as a result this inflated your ego to the point where you can’t tell reality from fiction. And here’s why most are destined to fail, why you should avoid this, and how to properly utilize your ego.
The Dunning–Kruger effect is a cognitive bias in which people with limited competence in a particular domain overestimate their abilities.
Why Most Are Destined to Fail
Spend some time on Money Twitter or MMA Twitter. So many people think they know more than actual earners or professionals who’ve bled for their sport. “Oh, that’s not the most profitable way of running this campaign” or “Why doesn’t he just leg kick into right hook at that exact moment?” type of squabble is rampant. So many of you are so cocky in your minimal expertise that you believe you’re qualified to talk like a vet. That gets you slapped in the mouth around real 1s any day of the week in real life. But so many people are chronically online that they mouth off — especially on Twitter or any place where an artist or a novel thinker vocalizes his work. Because most are audience members, few have the balls to post their raw thoughts, and even fewer have something of value to publicly share. But everyone has the balls to comment or judge, don’t they?
If you’ve ever found yourself to be the reply guy or unnecessarily arrogant, let me break this down to you as to how you come off and what this does to you subconsciously.
There are people who are right. And there are people who are wrong. The people who are right have gone through nearly every path you think you so uniquely have found to be the correct one. They’re the ones who are secretly jotting down all these loud mouth types. Not because they’re holier than thou but because they know their worth. They’ve proved it to themselves before. Loud-mouths rarely do. They haven’t bled true pain or misery to get to the podium. So the people who are right — the champs, see these loud-mouths and mentally make a note to never work with these types. And there’ll come a time where the reply guy or egomaniac will accidentally or by chance stumble upon the champs’ doorsteps to ask for advice or to work with them. The champs will never in a million years lend a hand or offer a partnership. And just like that because of their hubris they missed out on having help from literal moguls, actual billionaires, real-time playboys, motherfucking champs. What was it all worth? Satisfying their inflated ego?
Secondly. What it does to you subconsciously when you think you’re better than you actually are (what have you proven) is that it stunts your growth much more than when you’re humble because then you’re more willing to learn. No master can learn from his student if he thinks he’s the shit. It’s the wise guys who know they can glean advice from the young G’s who stay in the game. It’s the operators who listen to their employees on what’s working and what’s failing on the bottom floor of the business. Not the guys who think they know it all. Even if you do, it helps no one, especially yourself to think you’re the shit (and visibly show it) all the time.
Why You Should Avoid Arrogance.. For Now
Let’s talk about women for a minute as this is a topic every man can relate to.