Had a call with a follower, bright kid, killing it in the money department. But like all things, none of that really matters when it comes to relationships. Every one has problems and hiccups eventually. Especially if you’re under 35 because you’re not as experienced as most, or you don’t pick up patterns and assimilate them into your thought processing as fast or well as others; which leads you to making mistakes despite knowing about it or having learned about it in the past.
You see, the man is a very difficult role to play. Women, too, for many reasons I won’t get into in this post, but men have it a lot harder for many reasons. We lead. We are the romantics. We seduce. We entrance. We love. We are the initiators of all these and like a well-flowing self-sustainable business, once you get your ducks in a row as a man, you can just auto-pilot it and the girl will auto-correct trajectories. Meanwhile you just be you, and she loves you even further and respects you even more.
This is far from how most men in relationships are though, because what I described is a professional lover. Someone who understands the game. Most likely had this heart decimated in the past for loving too earnestly or being too needy or a plethora of other things that break relationships up slowly over time. But he processed it and changed his own blueprint to avoid that from happening in his next relationship. This is perfect and the best case scenario. I don’t know any man who had flawless relationships. Even if you are like me, and you have never been broken up with and you’ve always been the one to end it, it went wrong somewhere and that blame is always on the men.
She started to disrespect you by talking another man. She started wearing scantily clad clothing to the club and returning well-past midnight. She started talking to you less, asking to see you fewer times in the week. List can go on. Truth is that this falls on the man almost always and here’s why.
You led incorrectly which over time let her slip away from the love-trance you put her under, if you even have (usually take 2-12 months depending on how excellent you are with spit-firing emotions left and right, which is a beautiful and lengthy topic I’d love to get into one day).
You picked a bad blueprint and fell for the wrong girl, thinking you could change her over time. The red flags were apparent and too bright, but you forgot to take off your rose-tinted glasses.
Understand that until you find the right woman, the job of being the man is a thankless job. Everything is your responsibility. Everything falls on your shoulders in the end. You may say she was a bad blueprint but you chose her, that’s your fault. You weren’t experienced enough to know the red flags yet, hopefully you will for your future dates. You were too needy when it was clear your girl was at her limits, your fault. You didn’t lead your girl into a better field than the bar scene, your fault. You allowed discretions and pieces of disrespect to pile up over time, your fault. You were too dominant and not caring enough and loving, your fault. I can quite literally go on for an hour straight. Read the first sentence of this paragraph again, though.
Until you find the right woman.
Once you do, you’ll be happy to take on these roles because she will make you feel whole and mighty. You believe her words because they’re verified and you can see she’s good-hearted and loving.
The problem a lot of romantics must eventually come to terms with is that if a woman is no longer deemed worthy of attaching your heart and future life with, you need to man up and let her go. Don’t let it blow up in your face for the sex, or the fear of not replacing her, or being single for who knows how long. You must find your balls, detach your heart, and let her go so you can both find proper partners that you match up well with. Stop wasting precious time you have because you fear of all the time spent. There are certain no-no’s in relationships and once that’s been crossed, there’s absolutely no coming back.
For example, if a girl is talking to another guy through text a month or two into your actual relationship where you’ve both discussed it or it’s beyond obvious you’re dating, that’s an instant breakup. Doesn’t matter if you love her. She’s a bad blueprint, understand? She’s the type to omit moral consciences and do these things so early on. You’re probably thinking, “I can make her love me more than ever, and then she’d never cheat or disrespect me in a major way again. She only did that because we weren’t as close or in love.”
That’s bullshit, and you know it. But let’s say that’s true. Let’s say you game her so well, seduce and entrance her so well that she loves you more than anyone she’s ever been with. How long do you think you can keep up this perfect streak for? The truth is that the moment you drop your guard (which is absolutely inevitable btw), she will revert back to her bad blueprint which is to disrespect you in an immediate-breakup manner. You want to be with a girl that is morally conscious of her decisions. She understands there will be guys, and that the only way for her to be happy for life is to ignore these guys and focus on you. A good blueprint will try her best to avoid these scenarios. She’ll listen to you when you tell her to indefinitely send her location. She’ll listen when you tell her to go private on IG and delete all unnecessary male followers. She is submissive to you because you’ve earned that level of trust and respect by being the man.
Once your woman does a deed so far gone into the Dark, Evil Witch category, you must toughen up, have some respect for yourself, think about your future, and let her go.
I understand the pain, I’ve been there more than once. I, like many of you, am a very passionate lover. Heart on the sleeve, but I promise you my balls are bigger and more iron-clad than most. I don’t care if love is there. You can love a girl and still leave her. You can and probably will love her for time to come. That’s life.
There are plenty of beautiful, good blueprints in the world. You won’t find them being in love with a trash partner.
You have one life. You must promise yourself to always live it raw. Unaffected by the trash around you. Instead acquire the Midas Touch where everything you touch turns to gold, and what doesn’t you let back into the wild. Don’t waste your youth because of your first girl who you clearly picked poorly on or didn’t lead properly. Use it as a stepping stone, a learning example for your future wife who will be just as beautiful, if not more, and more importantly, a better woman to you and your legacy. The longer you delay the inevitable, the worse off you will be 5-10 years later looking back.
I am currently accepting a couple of private calls with my followers. If you have relationship problems, stuck in life, depressed or high-anxiety, mindset issues, not leading a fun and interesting life, or any theme you see me constantly writing and tweeting about, you can shoot me a DM on twitter @rawknuckle or on substack, and we can set it up if we’re a good match. I have a limit to how many calls I can spend time on, so this will be filled rather quickly.
I also have a private course on getting women via IG. I’ve had over 50 people purchase, many with great results plus a group chat filled with other guys bouncing ideas back and asking questions to which I also answer and help out in. If you’re having trouble finding dates with good blueprint girls, I go over that in detail, how to find them, how to get them to notice you, and how to get them out on a date (with live video and proof of concept shown).